tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post7284379832087520981..comments2023-10-28T02:06:53.354-07:00Comments on In the Sheepfold: A Baby at 43, A Baby at 45Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-52180377822692821512013-10-20T19:01:09.360-07:002013-10-20T19:01:09.360-07:00I thought this was really interesting and couldn&#...I thought this was really interesting and couldn't help but think of my husband's great-grandmother. She was 53 (53!) when she had the last of her 10 children. And this would have been around 1910 in rural, very poor Ireland. (Certainly no fertility treatment back then!) They lived in what amounts to little more than a stone shack. (We've been to visit it.) The whole thing continues to boggle my mind.<br /><br />Also, regarding the comment re: finding mom friends of different ages, this is something I've been trying to work on. I'm 34 and most of my mom friends are about my age, or a bit younger. I attended Leila Lawler's (Like Mother, Like Daughter) gathering in DC a few months ago and she made a big point of encouraging women to be open to friends of different ages and stages of life. It's something I hadn't thought of before, but now think is probably pretty solid advice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-43739111350516723362012-02-01T07:41:40.510-08:002012-02-01T07:41:40.510-08:00Thanks, Dwija! I've been enjoying your blog!Thanks, Dwija! I've been enjoying your blog!Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-34642658019805516802012-01-31T17:24:20.762-08:002012-01-31T17:24:20.762-08:00Great post, Kelly. I know it's an oldie, but ...Great post, Kelly. I know it's an oldie, but definitely a goodie!Dwija {House Unseen}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17887429052179249473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-68216723431258961022011-04-28T08:45:37.069-07:002011-04-28T08:45:37.069-07:00Anon -
I just saw your comment today. Congrats on...Anon -<br /><br />I just saw your comment today. Congrats on your baby! After so many years, that must have been a shock! How did your older children react?<br /><br />I have definitely found myself hanging out with some moms much younger than I am. We go to the park or trade off childcare.<br /><br />I love having sisters and friends whose children are older because they flat spoil the babies rotten.<br /><br />I do have times when people suggest trips or outings that simply can't happen with little ones. My relatives are taking a trip to Israel this summer, but I can't justify being away from the babies for more than a week and I can't imagine spending so much money and only staying a week.<br /><br />I prayed for a long, long time to be in this exact predicament. I'm now praying for the grace to embrace Now and not wish myself through these years. <br /><br />I will pray for you to find a good companion or two or three. Thanks you for visiting. God does have a great plan for your late in life blessing.<br /><br />(I'm almost 47. Thanks for saying I look young!)Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-43984408149660753452011-04-20T14:24:42.821-07:002011-04-20T14:24:42.821-07:00I only recently found your blog and just today rea...I only recently found your blog and just today read this older post. I was 47 and had 2 girls, ages 20 and 23, when their brother was born in January, 2010. He is our surprise baby and, though I am Catholic, I am definitely an anomaly in our church. I know of no one of my age who has a baby. I get the horrified looks, the "glad it's you and not me!" comments, and virtually no support from my church community. Too old for the young mothers and too tied down for the older set. I struggle sometimes with where do I fit in? and pray to God for peace with His plan. This baby MUST be here for a reason since the "chances of getting pregnant at 47 are slim to none"! Thank you for sharing that you are of "advanced maternal age" as well. (You look many years younger than what I'm guessing is your actual age.) Because of your honesty, I feel I have a peer, my contemporary, an inspiration and example. I look forward to checking in on you and your family. God bless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-74685057814059894902010-12-18T05:07:48.880-08:002010-12-18T05:07:48.880-08:00Dear Kelly, I agree with Sandy, I love your hones...Dear Kelly, I agree with Sandy, I love your honesty. I'm relieved you didn't mind me going on at some length. Your friend's experiences are very interesting. I think there are so many more miraculous and amazing things that happen to people than anyone's really willing to admit to! <br />Yes, the snow continues. At the moment it is falling out of a seemingly-blue sky. And it's very cold, well below freezing. People complain about the snow, but I think it's Nature's way of reminding us to Stop and Rest and not imagine we actually are in control! I hope you and your family have a great weekend. There's great excitement here as the countdown begins.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-42243009410293894632010-12-16T11:28:15.780-08:002010-12-16T11:28:15.780-08:00Absolutely love your honesty here. Thank you for ...Absolutely love your honesty here. Thank you for posting.Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10004651720352605486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-58112152221786069032010-12-16T10:40:50.173-08:002010-12-16T10:40:50.173-08:00Christine -
Thanks so much for your eloquent pers...Christine -<br /><br />Thanks so much for your eloquent perspective. I have a friend who believes she knew exactly when several of her children were conceived. Your experience is very beautiful.<br /><br />Motherhood is humbling. It's an awesome gift and responsibility to take part in bringing forth life.<br /><br />Thanks for writing. I enjoy your visits.<br /><br />Still snowy in Scotland?<br /><br />- KellyKelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-5703871475035963802010-12-16T09:38:58.175-08:002010-12-16T09:38:58.175-08:00This post is so interesting to me and has touched ...This post is so interesting to me and has touched a few chords! I hope you won't mind if I write a longish reply? <br /><br />I agree completely with what you say about letting God move through us, and also that it is a huge privilege and blessing to be given children. I've had a few miscarriages, and also been through infertility treatment. Like you, my husband and I refused certain treatments. The clinic was completely baffled when we stopped entirely and chose to adopt instead. (Then we had a baby of our own - ! classic) <br /><br />Although I have certainly railed at God with frustration and grief at times, deep down I've believed that it is a great, great thing that human conception is still something that the medical profession can't really control. I love that there is a profound mystery about what it takes to create a child.<br /><br />When I was pregnant with my daughter, before I had confirmed this fact via any tests, I was lying in bed one morning and suddenly realised that I was not alone. I knew there was another soul present within my body. This experience was unforgettable and deeply humbling. It was a gift that confirmed my belief that we belong to God, and that our lives aren't limited to the time we are officially alive on this earth. I no longer had any doubt that the soul is the most real part of each of us.<br /><br />End of 'comment'!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com