tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-110551792024-03-13T17:13:56.618-07:00In the SheepfoldKelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.comBlogger1072125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-57640384376867642562020-04-17T17:25:00.000-07:002020-04-20T08:11:47.988-07:00Teaching in Quarantine: Three Times the Work and Not Much of the FunIf you remember Jolt Cola, you are most assuredly dating yourself.<br />
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It was a short-lived soft drink, hitting its very brief and barely noticeable zenith in the mid-nineties. I remember it chiefly because of a student who was fond of it. We were heading home from Steubenville or Notre Dame following a massive youth conference. One of the teenagers -- we'll call him anonymous -- jumped into one of the fourteen passenger vans ready for the fifteen hour ride home and proceeded to down six Jolt Colas and a box or Oreo Cookies. It was a fun ride home.<br />
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Jolt had a pithy and memorable motto: All the Sugar and Twice the Caffeine. It's a testimony to the ad executive's wordsmithing that I remember that line all these years later.<br />
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If I were an ad executive trying to capture the world of teaching, or should I say <i>Distance Learnin</i>g, circa April 2020, here would be my slogan: Three Times the Work and None of the Fun!<br />
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I hate this.<br />
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I truly hate this.<br />
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I think we're four weeks into this, maybe five. It all gets hazy amidst no work, no normal church services, no soccer practices, in short few road markers that might help us distinguish between This Day and That Other Day.<br />
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And I'm suddenly reminded of elderly people who lose track of days. They're retired, so they can totally relate to the Dowager Countess who once famously quipped, "What is a weekend?"<br />
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(Aside: An odd feature of quarantine is that we get unduly excited about breaks in the monotony. Trash Day? Woo Hoo! I used to hate grocery shopping. Now it's a combination of Field Trip! Woo Hoo! and a night at the roulette table because, truly, you never know what you're going to get. Mail Delivery is a now a Spectator Sport. We love the mailman and the UPS guy. Seriously. I am ashamed to say I had never, prior to quarantine, spoken to the mailman. Now I speak to him regularly and am so very grateful for his service to us.)<br />
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But I digress.<br />
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Distance Teaching: Three Times the Work and None of the Fun.<br />
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Today I held one of the many, many Zoom classes. My precious Juniors wouldn't go on camera. I want you to know that my class usually meets first period, 8:55-9:50. Mindful that most teenagers are not known for being morning people -- thoughtful teacher that I am -- I hold my virtual class at 1:00. Only one person was on camera.<br />
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I want to see their faces. I miss their faces. I miss their humor. I miss their antics and their ideas and their energy.<br />
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Next week I plan to sweeten the deal and offer extra credit if they turn their cameras on.<br />
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As an English teacher, I routinely face an avalanche of papers. The piles can be daunting, but they are nothing -- nothing!! -- compared to endless electronic assignments that come via email or text or student information system with attachments and comments and questions and photos of greatly varying quality all mixed in with the phone bill, my latest order from The Children's Place, a reminder that I have a dermatology appointment the week after next, a thoughtful note from Delta Airlines reminding me that "We're all in this together," and a notification from Zoom about my next class.<br />
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Needle in a vast, vast electronic haystack. Give me back my stacks!<br />
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I love Zoom. I am getting better at Zoom. Six times yesterday I attempted to edit my American Lit class so that it reflected the fact that I live and teach in the Eastern Time Zone, not the Pacific Time Zone. Six times.<br />
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Edit. Save. Edit. Save. Edit. Save. Edit. Save. Edit. Save. Edit Save.<br />
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No exaggeration.<br />
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When I zoomed into Zoom, it appears that my class is still scheduled for 1:00 Pacific Standard Time.<br />
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I cried uncle. Zoom 1, Kelly 0.<br />
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O take me back to the piles of papers! Real papers. Actual papers. Papers that can't be deleted and that, mostly, can be read and that aren't mixed up with the light bill and the notification that the vet remains closed.<br />
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O take me back to classes that start and end in Eastern Standard Time!<br />
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Take me back to students with actual faces I can see!<br />
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(And I know, I know, I know, I know that this too shall pass. In the big scheme of things, these are minor irritations. They are nothing. But to me they are something).<br />
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Rant over.<br />
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<br />Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-73535418133558535662020-04-01T11:41:00.001-07:002020-04-01T12:31:19.208-07:00Covidiots and Quarantinis and Keeping Your Eyes on Your Own Quarantine<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Here's a helpful PSA we probably all learned by the end of first grade: Keep your eyes on your own work.You may not quarantine precisely as your neighbor chooses to quarantine, and that's (mostly) okay.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #444444;">"Comparison is the thief of joy," my wise friend Rachel says, quoting, I think, her wise mother.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #444444;">In our current circumstances, the thief works in two ways.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #444444;">You could while away the quarantine looking at social media and coming away with a long, long list of Everything That Is Wrong With You.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #444444;">Her husband is more helpful. Her children are more cooperative. She doesn't have to worry about money! Her kids are writing computer programs; mine are terrorizing the dog and their little sister. They have a lake. A lake!</span><br />
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<span style="color: #444444;">Keep your eyes on your own quarantine.</span><span style="color: #444444;">You are teaching Your kids in Your house under Your unique circumstances.</span><br />
<span style="color: #444444;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">A second, darker temptation is to look with contempt at those who respond differently than we do. Before I launch into that, let me point out that the quarantine has spawned some useful new words. I will highlight just two of them:</span><br />
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<span style="color: #2c353c; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 16px;"><b><u>Covidiot</u></b>: </span><br />
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<span style="color: #2c353c; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 16px;">1. </span><span style="color: #444444; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 16px;">Someone who ignores the warnings regarding public health or safety. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 16px;">2. </span><span style="color: #444444; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 16px;">A person who hoards</span><span style="color: #444444; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 16px;"> </span><a class="autolink" data-hasqtip="9" href="https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=goods" style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: times, "times new roman", serif; font-size: 16px; font-weight: bold; line-height: inherit;">goods</a><span style="color: #444444; font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif; font-size: 16px;">, denying them from their neighbors.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><b><u>Quarantini</u></b>: A soothing alcoholic drink that makes dealing with Covidiots so much easier!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #444444;">Yes, there are covidiots out there. They hoard toilet paper, and record themselves kissing toilet seats and throw huge parties in blatant disregard of the common good. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #444444;">But don't slap that label on everyone who does things differently than you do.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #444444;">We are not carbon copies. We don't have the same underlying risk factors. We don't interact with the same at risk people. We don't have the same fears. We don't have the same level of fortitude.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #444444;">That doesn't make us covidiots; it makes us human.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #444444;">Let's not devour one another.</span></span><br />
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<br />Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-91332741485362797982020-03-31T16:57:00.001-07:002020-03-31T16:57:30.252-07:00Love Is Kind<br />
When my sister was delivering my oldest niece, she was attended by the grumpiest L and D nurse on planet Earth. Quickly dubbed Nurse Ratchet, her favorite expression, as I recall, was "um, <i>no</i>."<br />
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I'd like my sister to be in the delivery room with me. Um, <i>no</i>.<br />
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I'd like something to drink. Um,<i> no</i>.<br />
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I'm feeling a little uncomfortable. Um,<i> no</i>.<br />
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Ice chips? Um, <i>no</i>.<br />
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Thankfully, change of shift rolled around, Nurse Ratchet skedaddled to be replaced by a kinder, gentler soul.<br />
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A few weeks ago our adult faith formation class watched a clip of Bishop Fulton Sheen talking about the unique call placed on nurses and doctors. Help care providers, he stated, have a special duty to be kind.<br />
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My son John appreciates kindness. How did you like football? <i>It was great. Uncle Nelson is nice.</i> How's swimming going? <i>Great. Coach Kathleen is nice</i>. How was school? <i>Awesome. Aunt Carolyn subbed, and she's nice.</i><br />
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From about age three on, my best friend was Susan Bennett who lived just up the street. Her mother was Marian Bennett. What I remember best about Mrs. Bennett was her piano playing and her kindness. She was just an upbeat person, not fake, but cheerful and kind. And I remember that fifty years later.<br />
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My Aunt Margaret is another nice person. She always welcomed me into her home. She smiled. She brought me a Popsicle when I was covered in the most hideous case of Poison Ivy ever. And I remember that forty-five years later.<br />
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We're all familiar with <span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">1 </span><span style="background-color: white;">Corinthians 13:4-8:</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span class="text 1Cor-13-4" id="en-NIV-28670" style="box-sizing: border-box;">Love is patient,<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-28670A" data-link="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28670A" title="See cross-reference A">A</a>)" style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 22px; position: relative; top: 0px; vertical-align: top;"></span> love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-28670B" data-link="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28670B" title="See cross-reference B">B</a>)" style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 22px; position: relative; top: 0px; vertical-align: top;"></span></span> <span class="text 1Cor-13-5" id="en-NIV-28671" style="box-sizing: border-box;">It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-28671C" data-link="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28671C" title="See cross-reference C">C</a>)" style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 22px; position: relative; top: 0px; vertical-align: top;"></span> it is not easily angered,<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-28671D" data-link="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28671D" title="See cross-reference D">D</a>)" style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 22px; position: relative; top: 0px; vertical-align: top;"></span> it keeps no record of wrongs.<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-28671E" data-link="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28671E" title="See cross-reference E">E</a>)" style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 22px; position: relative; top: 0px; vertical-align: top;"></span></span> <span class="text 1Cor-13-6" id="en-NIV-28672" style="-webkit-font-smoothing: antialiased; box-sizing: border-box;">Love does not delight in evil<span class="crossreference" data-cr="#cen-NIV-28672F" data-link="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28672F" title="See cross-reference F">F</a>)" style="box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 22px; position: relative; top: 0px; vertical-align: top;"></span> but rejoices with the truth.<b> </b></span><span class="text 1Cor-13-7" id="en-NIV-28673" style="box-sizing: border-box;">It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. </span></span><span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Love never fails. </span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">As we move into Quarantine, Week III, it is so very tempting -- so very human -- to be easily angered, to keep a record of wrongs, because at this point -- let's face it -- there's a whole lot that is wrong.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">We're all a bunch of accidental homeschoolers very much like the Facebook Dad with veins popping out his temples hissing, "I said, 'Mary has five apples, FIVE! APPLES!"</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">This isn't easy, folks. No, it's not. But let's try to be kind. And when we fail or when those around us fail, let's forgive.</span></div>
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Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-17356860117437946522020-03-29T14:17:00.005-07:002020-03-29T14:27:36.469-07:00Exoskeletons and Endoskeletons and Hard Stops<div style="text-align: right;">
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Sometimes life issues us a Hard Stop.</div>
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You're pregnant and experiencing problems and your doctor says, "Go home. Get on the couch. Don't move." </div>
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And you do it. </div>
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For the love of your baby, all those pressing issues, the endless To Do List, all that pent up nesting instinct, all that is urgent and oh! so very necessary gets set aside instantly. </div>
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You have a sick child. The plans get scrapped. The calendar clears. Or the calendar gets ignored.</div>
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Hard Stop.</div>
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We are now facing the mother of all Hard Stops.</div>
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Three weeks ago, I was facing the busiest week of a busy, busy year. We were en route to a college south of Atlanta for a literary competition. Our school began ramping up for this event last September. Auditions and rehearsals and permission slips and more rehearsals and a regional competition and a few last minute rehearsals and now it was time for the grand finale. For three of our students this was the final finale -- graduation was just around the corner. This would be their last trip to state.</div>
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We loaded up two vans with students, coaches, parents, and younger siblings. From the back of the van, we heard a plea for a bathroom break, and as I tried to text the second van, I spied an email from the competition director. </div>
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Campus closed. Competition to be rescheduled.</div>
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That was the first in a long line of cancellations and postponements that has left the six Dolins -- and families the world over -- working and learning from home.</div>
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Let me start by saying that this puppy is adorable and affectionate and playful and everything we wanted in a puppy, and I solemnly swear he is almost always up to no good.<br />
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Perusing just a few Internet resources -- "Surviving a Puppy"; "Puppies: The First Thirty Days" -- it is clear to me that nothing out of the ordinary is happening around here. We've had some interrupted sleep (and I'm reminded of why it is highly unusual for fifty-something women to have newborns). We've cleaned up some messes (and did I really think my house was dirty before Indy's arrival? Ha!). We've found suspicious teeth marks on shoes and sheets and furniture (and does anyone listen when I say Put it Away! Close the doors!)</div>
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Two weeks ago we had a meet and greet with a local breeder and eight of the cutest puppies you've ever seen. We selected one of the males and made arrangements to bring him home at eight weeks.</div>
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Indy reminds me of Ainsley in that he really, really likes being near his people. Yes, it hasn't been quite 24 hours, but already we're his people. If we're nearby, he curls up and sleeps like a baby. Apparently, I'm allowed to complete minor, fairly unimportant tasks so long as I don't get a wild hair and try something c-r-a-z-y like, say, walking into an adjacent room to transfer a load of laundry. This is not allowed. Productivity has screeched to a halt.</div>
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All in all, it's been a great weekend. Tim, it seems, has found a replacement for the car an errant driver totaled a few weeks back. I helped our next door neighbors move. The Spring Dance was magical. My sweet ninth graders -- the class that brought me back into the world of teaching -- are now seniors and so handsome and beautiful I cried as they were introduced. The decorations, headed up by another student, were perfect and amazing and different. So proud of Clare. Kolbe was his usual steady and hardworking and handsome self. Tired though I was, I loved working with our assistant superintendent, our junior class, and the other parents, who are my dear friends and neighbors. Day of rest though it should be, I spent quite a lot of time Sunday attending to dust and dander and puppy puddles.</div>
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<br />Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-56341051320586185252019-04-20T10:02:00.000-07:002019-04-20T10:02:20.586-07:00Soaking PrayerIt has been a roller coaster of a week, and I doubt this ride will end any time soon.<br />
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First off, thank you -- thank you! -- to everyone who prayed for my dad last week. His surgery went smoothly, and the initial reports were favorable. Sadly, that all changed on Thursday when we heard that the pathology reports showed showed cancer -- an aggressive cancer, a cancer that had metastasized. On Friday we heard that the cancer was probably not typically an aggressive cancer, but that it had indeed metastasized.<br />
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I have no medical expertise, so I can't explain the differences between small cell cancers and large cell cancers. I don't know precisely what "deep tissue" means. I don't understand how a non-aggressive cancer metastasizes.<br />
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But I know Dad is sick.<br />
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As my mom declined, I certainly struggled with the big hurdles she faced -- the broken bones and the surgeries -- but some of her little sufferings were the hardest to face.<br />
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I remember playing Scrabble and in her post-broken clavicle, post-surgical, post-nursing home that damn near killed her haze, my brilliant mother couldn't spell the word C-A-T and, worse still, she knew she couldn't spell C-A-T, knew she was supposed to be able to spell C-A-T, and looked up at me with tears coursing down her sunken cheeks. <br />
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She was slipping, slipping fast. There was no denying it, and it broke my heart.<br />
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But this I know: We can pray.<br />
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And this I know, too: None of this is wasted. God has numbered our days and counted are tears and continues to work in the midst of our pain and suffering and loss.<br />
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Alleluia Community has a gift of intercessory prayer. We have seen a few true miracles -- defied the odds, baffled the experts, made the newspaper kinds of miracles. More often we see less dramatic but in some ways equally as astonishing miracles -- the young woman diagnosed with terminal cancer who lived an additional nineteen years despite her diagnosis; the husband and father, also diagnosed with terminal cancer, who is going strong twenty-five years later; truly sick people who were not suddenly and completely healed but who went on to live and to love and to serve because of the consistent, soaking prayer offered up again and again and again.<br />
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And that's what I ask for my dad -- soaking prayer.<br />
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He is the heart of our family, we love him, and we want him to live to be a doddering old man. Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-58060889455455048352019-04-11T09:07:00.000-07:002019-04-11T09:07:45.394-07:00Food Just Like Your Mother MakesTim is moving up in the world of food and beverage.<br />
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He was promoted from Dining Room Assistant (a.k.a Bus Boy) to Server (a.k.a Waiter) just in time to rake in some impressive tips.<br />
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Tim studied the Masters menu with all the diligence of a pre-med major cramming organic chemistry.<br />
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And what a menu! Their premiere Masters entree? Fennel dusted elk. Yes. Tim painstakingly wrote out flashcards detailing the dishes, the sides, the appetizers, and a lengthy list of wines in all their varieties. Black Angus tenderloin with shiitake Madeira emulsion, raspberry infused duck breast with chambord glaze, and, of course, the fennel dusted elk.<br />
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"You should feel right at home," I told Tim. Oddly, meatloaf and macaroni and cheese are not on the menu at the Augusta Country Club.<br />
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I think Tim cleared over $200 in tips last night. I wondered if they're still hiring.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiDRColTGltVz6Ts2X5ljdPy5Noc8umfIcmqyAut2KyMEv9Mv793E9_HpKxBkT8z6oKjZcJ2D69Lx3LeZJZ3DjjTsrwgLcwmtxgWu9XciquuCkEZOne43cDA2BWAazvAFmuGDL/s1600/IMG_20160916_161658123.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1200" data-original-width="1600" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjiDRColTGltVz6Ts2X5ljdPy5Noc8umfIcmqyAut2KyMEv9Mv793E9_HpKxBkT8z6oKjZcJ2D69Lx3LeZJZ3DjjTsrwgLcwmtxgWu9XciquuCkEZOne43cDA2BWAazvAFmuGDL/s320/IMG_20160916_161658123.jpg" width="320" /></a>Up the street at the Augusta National, Kolbe is making some serious bank as a veteran member of Litter Patrol. The hardest part would be the hours. Kolbe clocks in at 6:00 a.m. and clocks out between 6:00 and 7:00 p.m. If you're attending the tournament, be sure to drop some trash in the vicinity of the second hole. Kolbe's got you covered.<br />
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Tim is in the market for a reliable used car. Call, text, or message him or me with any leads. I will happily wave goodbye to half my Uber duties.<br />
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<br />Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-66378522390910189462019-04-10T08:24:00.000-07:002019-04-10T08:46:44.900-07:00A Masterful WeekThere's a little golf tournament that comes to Augusta every April. You may have heard of it.<br />
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Hospitality for me means two things.<br />
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First, I clean with a vengeance. I sort and scrub and declutter with enthusiasm and vigor. Conveniently, the senior class yard sale coincided with my cleaning spree. A full truckload of Dolin castoffs-- a soccer goal and a few board games, a pedestal sink and some old furniture --<br />
went out the door in support of a good cause.<br />
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Hard deadlines are my friends. Oh, yes they are! I return items that have been sitting on top of the washing machine for six months. Hand me downs headed to the neighbors actually go to the neighbors. I wash windows I've been meaning to get to. In short, good has been done here. The kids' rooms look amazing.<br />
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We called the HVAC guy. We put a towel under the fridge. I sent Ainsley out into the yard to catch the toads.<br />
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It's all good.<br />
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<br />Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-49695901084295515102019-04-08T09:15:00.001-07:002019-04-08T10:10:15.917-07:00Prayers AppreciatedMy dear Dad goes into surgery momentarily. I covet all your prayers for the best of all outcomes.<br />
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<span style="text-align: center;">Two years ago I wrote the following post about Dad. I don't think I could say it today any better than I said it then. He still rocks!</span></div>
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My father's birthday came and went, and the post I had written in my mind never made it to the screen. My message is brief, and I lift it from the Gymboree t-shirt John wore last Father's Day:</div>
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My Dad rocks in a thousand ways -- some significant, some trivial.</div>
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Years ago, when my sister was considering an important decision, Dad offered some blunt advice.</div>
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"When you have kids," he shared, "your dreams die."</div>
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On the face of it, you would think those words stemmed from a life of disappointment and bitterness, from a person disillusioned and disenchanted. Nothing could be further from the truth.</div>
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When my parents first married, Dad owned his own business. It was a T.V. and radio shop. Dad is a mechanical wizard and has a passion for all things electronic. I'm sure he loved setting his own hours and being his own boss.</div>
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When children began arriving in regular succession, Dad closed his business and ultimately invested decades in a career with the Bell System. He was not his own boss and did not set his own hours. It was no dream job, I'm sure, but he was able to support us nicely, to pay tuition at Catholic schools, to provide health insurance.</div>
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In short, he let a dream die.</div>
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In truth, though, Dad is a man of many, many dreams. The T.V. shop closed, but he went on to pursue a hundred other joys -- fishing and ham radios, model airplanes and chess. He loved the water and always dreamed of living on a lake.</div>
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We often joked that my father had nine lives. He was forever slicing this or breaking that while sailing or carving or chiseling.</div>
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Dad is something of a character. One of his most endearing qualities is his ability to laugh at his own foibles. We laugh right along with him. Last week I sat engrossed in a game of Scrabble and listened to my sister attempt to teach Dad how to check his email. Her tone alternated between patient and patronizing as he interjected "What the hell's that for?' and "Ah, forget it! Just forget it!"</div>
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After about sixty seconds of this, my shoulders were shaking and tears coursed down my face I was laughing so hard.</div>
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Why? Because I've hear this identical exchange every! time! I! visit! I mean, <i>every time</i>. Don't you know these software engineers have formed a vast conspiracy to frustrate Keith Regan and Keith Regan alone?</div>
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Dad is still best friends with Lerew, a childhood pal. I will never forget the weekend they spent driving around trying to scam free Wi-Fi access. They finally succeeded by creeping in great stealth up the driveway of an exclusive club. They came home thrilled with their success and chuckling over their antics, two men in their seventies with multiple open heart surgeries between them. I wondered if they had thrown TP through the trees and scammed a beer or two. </div>
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I remember having coffee with my sister on my parents' deck as Dad fished offshore. We looked up to see Dad gesturing wildly, arms flailing madly. Kate and I immediately burst out laughing. No need to hear the dialogue. Make no mistake about it -- someone had just lost a Walleye.</div>
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Walleye fishing is a part of everyday life because Dad is living out his dream of living on the water. My parents live on an island in Lake Erie. </div>
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To me, that is a key part of their story. There is a time to do the right thing, to let a dream die. But, in Dad's case, he was really embracing another dream. He took hold of that new dream and didn't get mired in self-pity. He didn't count the cost over and over again. He found a life of purpose, of commitment, of excitement, of unexpected joy. In the end many of his dreams did come to pass.</div>
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That's a lesson I hope I have learned from my father.</div>
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Now in their 52nd year of marriage, my parents are now, without question, walking through the "for worse " part of their wedding vows. My mother lives with chronic pain and rapidly diminishing mobility. Obviously, my dad lives with this as well. Pressing medical needs make life on an island in Lake Erie a tad problematic.</div>
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On a recent visit, Dad casually mentioned, "We need to think about selling the house."</div>
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The house. The house he built. The house on the lake.</div>
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Dad shared this with all the gravity of discussing new tires or having a tree removed. <i>We need to think about selling the house.</i></div>
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Why? Because he is a courageous man, a man willing to let one dream die so that a more important one might live, a man who knows he will not succumb to bitterness and self-pity if things -- even <i>really </i>important things -- don't go his way.</div>
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I pray that he doesn't have to sell the house, but the fact that he can utter those words, can face that possibility, simply reinforces my longstanding view:</div>
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My Dad Rocks!</div>
<b></b><i></i><u></u><sub></sub><sup></sup><strike></strike><br />Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-44087384711481080012019-03-23T07:47:00.000-07:002019-03-23T07:47:46.855-07:00The Saints -- They Move MountainsI love the Catholic Church.<br />
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I love the smells and bells. I love the liturgical seasons, the cycle of major and minor feasts.<br />
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I love the sacraments. How could I not love the sacraments?<br />
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I love the wideness of the Church. I love the orders. I love that within a single Church there exists myriad devotions and spiritual bents -- the Dominicans, the Carmelites, the Franciscans, to name just a few.<br />
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I especially love the Missionaries of Charity with whom I worked for more summers than I can easily count.<br />
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The Missionaries of Charity love the saints, and they helped me to love them, too.<br />
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We recently recognized the Feast of Saint Joseph. A busy guy, Saint Joseph is patron saint of quite a lot -- husbands and fathers, workers and vocations, marriages and grace-filled deaths. My friend Rachel encouraged mothers of young men to ask for Saint Joseph's intercession as they find their way in the world. (Rachel just returned from a tour of Israel. I had asked her to remember all our boys during her visit to the Wailing Wall).<br />
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On New Years Day, I gathered the kids around my laptop and headed to Jen Fulweiler's Saints' Name Generator to find a saint of the year for each of us. John was first up. He said a brief prayer and pressed the button. "Saint Sigismund of Burgundy," the screen read, "Patron: Against fevers."<br />
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I did a double take, as would anyone who has known John for long. About ten years ago, at around 12-18 months, John began running sky-high, cyclical fevers. His highest was 104.6 (in the middle of the night, on an island in Lake Erie). A good time was had by all! His fever episodes peaked around 2nd grade when they came relentlessly every twenty-one days and lasted 48-72 hours. Fever, vomiting, sore throat, a mouthful of canker sores -- John suffered.<br />
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He hasn't run a fever since New Years Day.<br />
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Heaven is for real. The Saints -- the canonized ones with the big "S" along with the unheralded, unnoticed ones who simply persevered in faith, hope, and love -- are there with Almighty God ready, much like our friends here on earth, to intercede for all our needs -- for lost keys (thanks, Saint Anthony!, for lost souls (Saint Jude!), for a feverish little boy suffering on the couch (Saint Sigismund!).Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-7893709470494761062019-03-21T13:51:00.000-07:002019-03-21T13:53:10.867-07:00The Night BeforeDo you have Awful Mornings? You know, late start, lunch items in short supply, everyone crabby, uniforms elusive.<br />
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John can find just one pair of pants, and they look like he wore them in a Tug of War. His team lost. Ainsley is sporting an appalling case of bed head and thinks any variety of comb or brush came straight from the dungeons of a medieval castle. I spray detangler just as she turns her head. Doink! The bulk of it shoots straight into Ainsley's left eye.<br />
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We back out of the driveway at 8:18 instead of 8:10. Kolbe then remembers it's Blazer Day. We pull back in. He forgets the house is locked. We pass him the keys.He locates the blazer. We pull back out and in the midst of refereeing a minor squabble that has erupted, I fail to angle the car, and the van bottoms out as we swerve into the street.<br />
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My friend and spiritual adviser suggested I begin a simple practice during morning prayers: ask the Holy Spirit to bring to mind three things I should do each day. As I sat for a few minutes of prayer after a particularly trying morning, I felt a nudge to focus less on the morning and more on the night before.<br />
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Note: <b>This would be no revelation to most people.</b><br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXdP9143FKjIgXf18XKYZZeg2MlutT9pPljYHla8jL1oC1TQuk8MvLzZD79-rAgC4XB2ILDVriVm1dtpQ1QlkwhXbg763obloMiDCARRtqAamwkLjNFd3sjKiUASGMXi2FM7G6/s1600/IMG_20170526_092500737.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1600" data-original-width="1200" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXdP9143FKjIgXf18XKYZZeg2MlutT9pPljYHla8jL1oC1TQuk8MvLzZD79-rAgC4XB2ILDVriVm1dtpQ1QlkwhXbg763obloMiDCARRtqAamwkLjNFd3sjKiUASGMXi2FM7G6/s400/IMG_20170526_092500737.jpg" width="300" /></a>Here's the glaringly obvious truth: What constitutes a crisis at 8:18 a.m. is really perfectly manageable at 8:18 the night before. We all know the devil is in the details. And three school-aged kids bring with them a pile of details -- the PE clothes, the permission slip, lunch money, shin guards, costumes for the play, et al.<br />
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I love, love, love uniforms, oh yes I do. I'd pen a sonnet, <i>Ode to a Khaki Skort,</i> if 3rd quarter didn't end tomorrow and if I weren't staring down a daunting pile of ungraded papers.<br />
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<i>Ode to the Khaki Skort</i> will have to wait, but know, O Beloved Uniforms, that my devotion remains unswerving.<br />
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I admit that at or about 8:18 in the morning, when the belt goes missing or the tie is AWOL or one shoe is on hiatus, the value of uniforms becomes somewhat murky and as elusive as, well, the khaki skort that Ainsley swore she hung up in her closet exactly as instructed.<br />
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Last night I reminded the kids to stage their uniforms. "Stage" is a term left over from from my Procter and Gamble days when I'd call a plant to find out if a truckload of shampoo, toothpaste, and deodorant had been staged.<br />
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Lay it all out there, ready to go.<br />
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I recently reminded a nameless teenage age son to locate a red polo, a.k.a the travel uniform, as he was due to head to a game the following afternoon. Always quick to comply, he duly located a red polo. But come morning, once again at or about 8:18, the red polo turned out to be the one belonging to a brother six grades below him.<br />
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Yeah.<br />
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Clearly, we need to require something more than eye-balling. In fact, I think a full on dress rehearsal may be in our future.<br />
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It all begins the night before.<br />
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<br />Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-76472880405536037132019-03-20T19:09:00.000-07:002019-03-20T19:09:44.833-07:00Pollen<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Ainsley and I are dealing with goopy eyes and itchy noses and the fallout of a neighborhood that is bursting with color, but hard, so very hard, on those who struggle with seasonal allergies.<br />
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I'm not sure when I became one of those few -- those unhappy few -- that band of strugglers (Jamie will get the allusion. My ninth graders finished Act IV today). Were I to undergo allergy testing, I am certain I would come up positive for cats, chalk dust, and the pollen that is currently coating every vehicle, every bush, the outdoor furniture, my front teeth, you name it, it's covered with yellow powder.<br />
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I now take Allegra regularly, and during weeks like this, I reach for antihistamine eye drops as well. But to no avail. We need rain.<br />
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<br />Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-64123123891585702882019-03-18T14:53:00.002-07:002019-03-18T14:53:29.167-07:00Back in the Saddle AgainJohn: How do you make an omelette?<br />
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Me: Step 1 -- Borrow eggs from the neighbors.<br />
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Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-63678682479142168432016-08-17T17:49:00.000-07:002016-08-17T17:49:19.617-07:00As Summer Winds Down But Temperatures Continue to Soar . . . <table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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Ainsley and her three BFFs named themselves The Fantastic Four.<br />
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John and his buddy very thoughtfully renamed them The Fartastic Four.<br />
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Predictably, Ainsley cried.<br />
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Unpredictably, Ainsley's mother laughed.<br />
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And laughed.<br />
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And laughed some more.<br />
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In fact she laughed until she was crying right along with Ainsley.<br />
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Because we are just half-way through August.<br />
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And it's blistering hot.<br />
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And the pool hours have been cut back because the rest of humanity is back in school.<br />
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But we're not.<br />
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And I'm mostly glad.<br />
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But it's still blistering hot.<br />
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So we gotta laugh.<br />
<br />Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-38210554786686964742016-08-08T06:26:00.002-07:002016-08-08T06:26:30.343-07:00My Girl Turned Seven!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-40344041254458631842016-07-24T15:59:00.001-07:002016-07-24T15:59:33.968-07:00As John Turns NineIn light of John's ninth birthday, I pull this from the archives:<br />
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As John Turns Seven . . .<br />
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The day before his birthday, John rolled over in bed and posed an important question, "Is today tomorrow?"<br />
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"No," I sadly informed him, "Tomorrow is tomorrow."<br />
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Ainsley could sympathize. "There's so many tomorrows, so many tomorrows," she lamented.<br />
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Kids and time. Such interesting perspectives.<br />
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When Tim was still Timmy, <i>Tomorrow </i>was <i>The Next Day To This Day </i>and <i>Yesterday </i>was<i> The Last Day To This Day.</i> Kind of makes sense. Ainsley will ask when we're going to the zoo. I'll say, "next Thursday," and she'll then wake up everyday asking, "Is today next Thursday?"<br />
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Love that.<br />
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Well, eventually today became tomorrow and even John realized that the big day had at long last dawned. So instead of asking if today were tomorrow, he leaned over and said, "Presents?"<br />
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Love my John.<br />
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Love, love, love my seven-year-old, adventure-loving boy.<br />
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I love his laugh, his enjoyment of sea glass and stars, of bike riding and dead snakes.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjS94CXYFOccwg5Wzr5-B8WSrcvNrZgDsHyebJBEXgQJd7-nj3vE1iBq7tDddcU3Tb9m2ZUWt32U3rubqwTiKE_1nIPxs__MjWx-i7cXqRKq9CeqTItSiz7wYOPldRmaQcUU4sNyw/s1600/DSCF2383.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjS94CXYFOccwg5Wzr5-B8WSrcvNrZgDsHyebJBEXgQJd7-nj3vE1iBq7tDddcU3Tb9m2ZUWt32U3rubqwTiKE_1nIPxs__MjWx-i7cXqRKq9CeqTItSiz7wYOPldRmaQcUU4sNyw/s1600/DSCF2383.JPG" width="240" /></a>Pelee Island is full of snakes. How these things can remain on the endangered species list defies evidence I viewed with my own two eyes and nearly stepped on at least twice. Every bike ride to the bakery garnered a few specimen dead in the road. I passed one freshly smushed snake and looked behind me to see if John would respond in predictable fashion. The boy does not disappoint. No, true to form, he screeched to halt, checked out the carcass . . . and ran it over a few more times with his bike.<br />
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{Insert head bang.}<br />
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I found one long dead reptile flattened and stiff. John carried it around for days until I found it hanging from my parents' door knob. He came out of the house sporting a blank, innocent expression and with a tone intentionally casual asked, "Has anyone seen anything near the door knob?"<br />
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You know, I should have screamed. Really, I should have produced the complete and proper scene John was looking for.<br />
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I was filling out a form for John's annual physical. "What are your interests," I asked him.<br />
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"Guns," he replied.<br />
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"Books," wrote his mother.<br />
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"What else," I asked.<br />
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"Computer games," he replied.<br />
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"Swimming," wrote his mother.<br />
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But really John reminds me of his grandfather in that he is a boy of many passions -- Legos and astronomy, spy gear and Batman, and, as he was quick to add, "money, presents, Auntie Kate, and all my cousins."<br />
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We walked down the shore of Lake Erie late one night, and John was astonished at the number and clarity of the stars. He slipped his hand in mine out of companionship, not fright, and pointed them all out to me.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgcPUgRr7p3QBUMfUw5ipb_zsCE1DBgLNswqXKllZMB16f9-uxdIw32ml5lMwhcAgjx1BdwlNb1dzZEJxl2bmL4Jc-2X6u0IyNqoBomNfXmyWRGPjAuM_-yk_CHQKWpC7LMjP2QLg/s1600/DSCF4063.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgcPUgRr7p3QBUMfUw5ipb_zsCE1DBgLNswqXKllZMB16f9-uxdIw32ml5lMwhcAgjx1BdwlNb1dzZEJxl2bmL4Jc-2X6u0IyNqoBomNfXmyWRGPjAuM_-yk_CHQKWpC7LMjP2QLg/s1600/DSCF4063.JPG" width="240" /></a>I love all my kids. (Of course I do). But I look at each one through the unique lens surrounding their birth. Tim, our first, was born of youth and optimism. We wanted a baby; we had Tim. Kolbe came to us after four years of waiting and six rounds of fertility drugs. It's altogether fitting that he is persevering in nature. The month before John came to be, I endured my sixth miscarriage in as many years. For reasons emotional and physical, I had begun voicing thoughts about not pursuing that course of action any longer.<br />
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And then John.<br />
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I will always remember those first weeks of nausea and appetite swings that were followed closely by a week of feeling absolutely normal. Internally I mourned even as externally I continued to pray, continued to exercise the virtue of hope until there was no reason to hope.<br />
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And my boy held on.<br />
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<i>I'm having a baby. I'm really having a baby this time.</i><br />
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He's the baby born of hope and healing.<br />
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Love my John, the boy who was just overheard saying, "Ainsley, do you want to see me put Pooh Bear on the fan?"<br />
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That's my boy.<br />
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Motherhood can bring its share of regrets, no doubt about it. I wish I had worried less and relaxed more, overlooked this issue and focused a little more on that one. But I realize that I'll look back on John age 5, John age 6 and know that I enjoyed nearly every minute of it, that I fully drank in and appreciated his liveliness, his humor, his energy. Even the challenges -- recurrent fevers, reading, math -- have led me to invest lots of one on one time with this boy of mine, so I can't regret those either.<br />
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One day John will no longer reach for my hand as we walk down the beach. One day his interest in bugs will give way to an interest in girls or cars or computers. One day <i>Mama </i>will morph into <i>Mom</i>.<br />
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But that day is not today.<br />
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Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-51121835633787689602016-06-27T06:53:00.000-07:002016-06-27T06:54:40.569-07:00I'll begin with a beautiful introduction to my current read:<br />
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We are guilty of many errors and many faults,<br />
but our worst crime is abandoning the children,<br />
neglecting the fountain of life.<br />
Many things can wait. Children cannot.<br />
Right now their bones are being formed,<br />
their blood is being made,<br />
and their senses are being developed.<br />
To them we cannot answer, "Tomorrow."<br />
Their name is today.<br />
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Gabriela Mistral</blockquote>
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<i>Their Name Is Today</i> is a book that encourages parents to reclaim childhood, to build margins into family life, to give children unstructured down time. Beautiful, poignant, true -- and seemingly out of step on a day when the six Dolins are headed in five directions, in a week that sees swim team wrap up in a flurry of activities that includes a final dual meet, a divisional meet, an all star meet, and a team party.<br />
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Friday morning Dave and Kolbe and half our worldly possessions headed out for a weekend camping trip. As every scouting mother knows, prep involves rounding up a vast array of gear from various closets, attics, and sheds, inventorying the pile, drafting an exhaustive shopping list to cover missing items, and then heading out to Walmart armed with an American Express Card with a generous credit limit.<br />
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Meanwhile Tim headed off to Atlanta to visit a friend at Georgia Tech.<br />
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With Dave, Tim, and Kolbe gone, I headed into the final leg of swim team solo. So you can go ahead and queue the ominous music already.<br />
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Saturday was the divisional meet. Let's capitalize that. If an average meet is epic, The Divisional Meet is epic on steroids with a side of Monster.<br />
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The night before, I fully intended to get everyone bedded down at a reasonable hour, and I mostly succeeded. I was awakened around 5:30 to odd noises coming from downstairs. I ambled into the family room to find John watching Home Alone 3 . John is not an early riser. In point of fact, I'm 0 and 4 for early risers among these offspring of mine. My friend across the street routinely deals with disappointed boys who pop by our house at 9:20 to nab John only to hear he's still sawing logs. <i>How do you do this</i>, Sarah has frequently texted me. That's just the way it is -- except the morning of The Divisional Swim Meet.<br />
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As we packed up, John began saying he felt funny. <i>Nerves</i>, I said. As we pulled into a remarkably awesome parking space, I glanced at John in the rear view mirror. <i>Not nerves,</i> I thought. I put my hand on his forehead and detected warmth.<br />
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Readers of this blog will remember John and his fevers. John has run sky-high fevers regularly for years and years and years. Nearly eight years. Come this Friday John would have been 365 days fever free. They suddenly stopped -- until the morning of The Divisional Swim Meet.<br />
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I pulled out some Advil and got him to swallow one and chew (ugh!) the other. And he was good. Cheerful. Energetic. Goofing off with his buddies.<br />
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(And not contagious! I always feel horribly judged about John and his fevers. He has an auto-immune problem that -- unlike Lice and Chicken Pox and Flu -- doesn't travel from kid to kid. He's fine. He's miserable. He's fine again. We've learned to live with this.)<br />
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Sultry, muggy, dank --words fail to capture it adequately.<br />
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I passed the time closely examining which women had hair that frizzed and which women didn't and wondering how the non-frizzy women pulled this off in the sauna that was the aquatics center.<br />
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And then John who had been cheerful and energetic suddenly was neither. He was wrapped in a towel and trying to go to sleep. I zipped across the street to buy liquid Tylenol and chocolate milk. Pain relief and comfort.<br />
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John rallied. In a move that shocked both me and Coach Ian, my girl Ainsley competed in backstroke and made it across the pool unassisted. Different kids, different goals -- one of the things I love about swimming is that you can celebrate all of it.<br />
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We drove home and collapsed, Ainsley and I figuratively, John literally. He woke up in the middle of the night scorching hot and vomiting. As John got older, his fevers were lower (102 instead of 104.5) but invariably he would vomit off and on for hours. He dealt with this every three weeks throughout second grade. It was terrible. Unpredictable for us, misery for him. When they appeared to cease a year ago, we were so happy for John.<br />
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Today he's fine with nothing but circles under his eyes to show for his troubles. Ainsley, meanwhile, sounds croupy. Isn't Croup a winter problem?<br />
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All Stars tonight.Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-6909785391030304512016-06-20T06:45:00.002-07:002016-06-20T06:45:31.160-07:00Why I Love LanguageBecause you could write:<br />
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Or -- if you're Winston Churchill -- you might try this:<br />
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<i>Our story centres in an island, not widely sundered from the Continent, and so tilted that its mountains lie all to the west and the north, while south and east is a gently undulating landscape of wooded valley, open downs, and slow rivers. It is a very accessible to the invader,whether he comes in peace or war, as pirate or merchant, conqueror or missionary.</i></blockquote>
And now I'm off to transfer the laundry, gently undulating in the washer, into the dryer.<br />
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Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-7406888688133103472016-03-21T20:19:00.000-07:002016-03-21T20:19:10.275-07:00The Brotherhood of the Travelling UnderpantsJohn came to me in a state of deep indignation one day. "I'm wearing Calvin's underwear," he informed me, clearly distressed about this state of affairs.<br />
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"John," I calmly informed him, "Calvin Klein is a clothing designer. Some people like his stuff."<br />
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"No," he told me, "This is <i>Calvin's</i> underwear."<br />
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He pulled down the waistband far enough for me to see Calvin C______ written in black Sharpie, clear as could be.<br />
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It was, indeed, Calvin's underwear -- Calvin, our friend from down the beach at Pelee Island, not to be confused with Calvin, the designer.<br />
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To add insult to injury, those undies had traveled from our friend Calvin to Nathan, John's cousin, and then quite possibly to George, John's next cousin down the line, before landing in John's collection of intimate apparel.<br />
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The Brotherhood of the Traveling Underpants. Believe me, John was less than thrilled to be a member.<br />
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Now I am a firm believer in thrift stores and consignment sales and hand-me-downs. I have a few scruples in this regard, and if truth be known underwear generally doesn't make the cut of what I'll buy used. Sippy cups and bike helmets and underwear -- we generally bite the bullet and pay retail for these goodies. I am part of a vast, complicated network of hand-me-downs which results in notes in our community newsletter that might read something like this:<i> Lost: Lands End school sweater size 8. Name tag reads Sterett. Please return to the Johnson family.</i><br />
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Mostly I'm cheap. But, really, I'm just cheap about some things. I think that's true of most people. You splurge on a pedicure; I might splurge on dinner out. You want a new car; I want a nice vacation.<br />
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An unidentified child of mine lodged a complaint about his cleats. Not the size or the fit or the general condition of the cleats. No, no, no. Dissatisfaction stemmed from the lame, lame, mega lame brand of cleats I had chosen to purchase. At the risk of offending my beloved offspring, let me just put it out there that the Dolins, as a rule, don't make the starting line up, and so I am not inclined to purchase those $100 basketball shoes, those $95 cleats.<br />
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"Look at the label on the piano," I gently told said offspring.<br />
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We seem to produce better pianists than soccer players, and, thanks to Grandma who just plain rocks, we now have a n-i-c-e piano. (But cheap soccer cleats).<br />
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A new babysitter once asked if my kids were allowed to play outside.<br />
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When, slightly confused, I said yes, sure, of course, she asked if the kids should change clothes before exiting the premises. I was baffled that kids should change out of play clothes to go out and, umm, play, but this sweet babysitter had been burned by a mom who had positively lost her marbles when her children actually dared to play in their play clothes.<br />
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I get it.<br />
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Ainsley had a pre-school classmate who routinely showed up on the playground in slightly bizarre designer outfits that topped a hundred bucks easy.<br />
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As for me, my heart swells when I see sights like this:<br />
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All that being said, I admit to minor heart palpitations upon seeing Ainsley's ruffly, new, white t-shirt from Gymboree looking as though it had taken a trip through the sewers that backed up last week. If she had to demolish one of her new tees, I'm thankful she chose the white one. Bleach and a little elbow grease might revive it.<br />
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I may or may not have birthed a hapless child who takes freshly laundered dress clothes -- clothes that have been on a warm body for the whopping ninety minutes it takes us to drive to Mass, attend Mass, and return home -- and deposits these clothes in a hamper designed for <i>dirty clothes.</i> You can imagine my reaction.<br />
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Gruesome, I tell you, gruesome.<br />
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Yes, I have my moments. But going postal over clothing is not my modus operandi. At the end of the day, I realize these little people of mine will not be six and eight forever.<br />
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No, they won't.<br />
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While I certainly appreciate cute, I really want them to be kids.<br />
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1. My mom has had a bad week. A <i>really </i>bad week. She stumbled and broke her foot.The first set of x-rays showed a minor fracture in the side of her right foot. A follow-up x-ray indicated a fracture in her heel. The doctor then noticed redness in her left foot, i.e. the non-injured foot, i.e the foot that allows her to pivot as she moves from wheelchair to bed, from wheelchair to bathroom, etc. A third x-ray indicated two breaks below her middle toes on the "good" foot.<br />
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Please pray that we can sort out the logistics of getting Mom from South Florida to Detroit without outright purchasing American Airlines.<br />
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And pray for pain relief and protection from further breaks.<br />
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And pray for my dad, a stalwart caregiver if ever there was one.<br />
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2. And on the brighter topics . . . Ainsley comes to me and asks me to spell the name of a show so she can search for it on Amazon. Today is was <i>Jack and the Bean Stalking</i> which made me laugh and conjured up all manner of bizarre images. Love my girl!<br />
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3. John's Batman tennies went missing, so I texted my neighbor across the street.<br />
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True that.<br />
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4. So losing things seems to be a regular staple of life. John's glasses go missing, and I flat scour his room to no avail. I pat myself on the back that I have borrowed cowboy boots a full month before John appears in <i>Pecos Bill, </i>the third grade play . . . but the day the costume's supposed to head off to school, said boots are nowhere to be found. I spend the morning scouring the front door before painting it . . . but can't find the sander when I need it.<br />
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Ah, life.<br />
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Things have a way of turning up.That's what I keep telling myself.<br />
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5. While we're on the thrilling subject of my front door, I have to tell this tale. So the middle schoolers are in the big thick midst of Science Fair, and Kolbe and his buds are working at out house. A dad drops off his son and as he's leaving, he notices out front door is sticking, or more accurately, is entirely stuck. A talented carpenter, our friend David zips home and returns with saw horses, a sander, a drill, some sort of planer, and primer. While Dave and the boys talk data and bar charts, the other David completely fixes our door, sands down a rough area, primes the sanded bits, replaces the hardware, hangs the door.<br />
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6. And the above anecdote reminds me of the other day when I went in search of Ainsley. You know we moved a year ago. But we moved just around the corner. If I crane my neck, I can look out my new back door and see my old front door.<br />
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But the move has been huge for our kids.<br />
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We had the best neighbors ever for 18 years. The. best. ever. Almost no one had little kids. We moved around the corner and suddenly my kids have 23 friends to play with on a regular basis.<br />
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I don't think I'm exaggerating.<br />
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Four behind us. Two next door. Ten spread between the two houses across the street. And a whole bunch more in the adjoining houses.<br />
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My goal of having free range kids is (partially) being realized.<br />
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So I went in search of Ainsley the other day and found her with her two BFFs wearing shorts and playing with water on a chilly day. "What are you doing, girls" I wondered. "Playing Lavabo Bowl," they told me.<br />
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They poured water over each others' hands as they recited the words from Psalm 51 that the priest says before the consecration: <i>Wash me from my iniquities and cleanse me from my sins.</i><br />
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Playing Lavabo Bowl. I'll take that. Even on a chilly day, I'll take that.<br />
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7. And then there's John. The block across the street is shaped like the letter K and called -- no surprise here -- K Block.<br />
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We say that John doesn't play in K Block; he plays under K Block.<br />
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And if you were to go explore the underground bunker he and his friends have fashioned, you'd understand what I mean. No scrap of wood lying out by the street on trash day is too small to be incorporated into "The Safe House" as they have dubbed the bunker. Recycle! Repurpose! Pray there's no exposed nails!<br />
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Of late, the boys have abandoned Safe House in favor of epic Nerf wars that involve every last one of the aforementioned 23 kids plus a few others from surrounding streets. They're serious about these Nerf wars. Oh, yes they are. John returned home one night -- shoe-less, of course -- with all exposed skin camouflaged with -- brace yourselves, now -- soot. Yes, soot. Left over from a fire pit. Soot.<br />
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Thank the good Lord for running water and up-to-date Tetanus shots. And free-range kids. Does this tomboy's heart good.<br />
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My life in Seven Quick Takes. Head over to the other <a href="http://thisaintthelyceum.org/sqt-escape-to-the-shore-random-high-and-low-takes/">Kelly's </a>to add your update.Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-12354145740455379242016-03-10T06:42:00.001-08:002016-03-10T06:42:15.049-08:00I Wish Every Home Had an Eight-year-old Boy<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUarJYbxnKgvzVpMuyrX7fAyPwj1c0gFzu8-Qggjl6R91rtpNLm4qAppGkRoFlfieZNZigygWHm_6m-9ut5AXb0kNBmCEPsWgC6hpdkkrj3Ik5q3nN1j1Z0AGqnPdJXHkIbIud/s1600/DSCF6230.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUarJYbxnKgvzVpMuyrX7fAyPwj1c0gFzu8-Qggjl6R91rtpNLm4qAppGkRoFlfieZNZigygWHm_6m-9ut5AXb0kNBmCEPsWgC6hpdkkrj3Ik5q3nN1j1Z0AGqnPdJXHkIbIud/s320/DSCF6230.JPG" width="320" /></a>They're the best.<br />
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Yes, they are.<br />
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They are mischievous and funny (even if their humor relies heavily on fart jokes). They are forgiving and kind (except when encountering their sisters' Barbies. Too, too tempting). They have a dozen passions that are relatively cheap (Legos and Nerf guns, bikes and scooters).<br />
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They love their Mamas.<br />
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Yes, they do.<br />
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They <i>love </i>their Mamas.<br />
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Now in the interest of full disclosure, they have their moments, these eight-year-old boys. I find John's socks everywhere. Everywhere. The idea that they can be deposited in a single place that never, ever changes, a place that ensures they will one day be returned (clean! fresh!) to be worn again -- well, this concept is wholly lost on eight-year-old boys.<br />
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They breeze through snack food like ants at a picnic. In a moment of candor, John looked at me and said, "Look, Mama, You really need to find a better hiding place for the cookies."<br />
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"Or we could all develop a bit of self-control," I countered.<br />
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No one can match John when it comes to an expression of shock and disbelief, of incredulity and stupefaction. I'm pretty sure he's triple-jointed and can raise one eyebrow so fast and so high, I'm surprised it doesn't land on the wall behind him. <i>Develop a bit of self-control? Surely you jest.</i><br />
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And speaking of walls . . . John admitted to me that when he dons his bathing suit for swim team three times a week, he tends to fling his underwear. That just might explain this: <br />
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But he loves his Mama.<br />
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We spent some time in the yard yesterday afternoon mowing this and raking that. I gave the kids advance warning. I assured them we wouldn't be out there for hours. When the time to work drew nigh, the conversation went something like this:<br />
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What I said: <i>Okay, let's go tackle a little yard work before dinner!</i><br />
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What they heard: <i>Down in the mines for the lot a ya.</i><br />
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As I dealt with deep sighs and dragging feet, mild irritation morphed into anger. I chewed the lot of them out, set down my rake, and went into the house to grab something. I glanced at the To Do List sitting on the desk. Earlier in the day, I had a reality check when it said this:<br />
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When I came in from the yard, it said this:<br />
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<i><br /></i><i>i love you mom </i><br />
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My first note in cursive (or as John used to call them "curse words").<br />
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His socks may doubt the existence of a hamper; his underwear may be hanging from the chandelier; he may be one highly unenthusiastic yardman.<br />
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But he loves his Mama.<br />
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Yes, he does.<br />
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I think of my my mother-in-law -- she who birthed four sons who went on to father eight grandsons in a row before Ainsley added a jolt of estrogen to the gene pool. She once shared story about her youngest son, Dave's brother Jeff.<br />
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She looked over at him at age ten and fervently wished time would just. stand. still.<br />
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She knew the storm that was lying dormant, that under that pleasant face was fomenting a toxic combination of hormones and attitude, that late nights and charming facial expressions were coming her way. Been there done that three times, she had. And, of course, she was right.<br />
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As for me, when John sprouts his first pimple or whisker, I intend to drape the house in black crepe and invite my Jewish relatives over to sit shiva with me.<br />
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As for today, I plan to savor this:<br />
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<br />Kelly@http:/inthesheepfold.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09834003036792819091noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11055179.post-92109415465631530152016-02-13T05:42:00.001-08:002016-02-13T05:42:32.992-08:00My Mother's Too Busy and She Sleeps All the Time . . .And other lessons in humility.<br />
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1. So John's in <i>Pecos Bill</i>, the play the third grade traditionally stages. And he's struggling with some of his lines. And his teacher asks him to spend some time with Mom practicing. And he responds, "My mother's too busy, and she sleeps all the time."<br />
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Now, I could be terribly offended by that line.<br />
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Or I could point out the rather obvious fallacy in the statement -- namely, that it's hard to be too busy AND sleeping all the time.<br />
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Or I could play the sympathy card and report that I have a raging sinus infection and while reading the daily stack of school papers dozed off in the recliner from approximately 3:51 until 4:07 when two kids presented me with electronic devices and insisted that I sign them, declared that their entire academic was at stake, thus putting an abrupt end to the nap that brought me the title "sleeps all the time."<br />
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I am laughing this one off.<br />
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2. And that's all better than my dear friend Anna whose father forgot to pick up his suits at the dry cleaners one Friday afternoon which led his darling daughter to report, "Daddy's not in church because he doesn't have any clothes to wear." Concerned church members arrived at her parents' house with a basket of donated clothing.<br />
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3. Kids. A never-ending adventure. I cleaned out John's book bag the other day and found a hot dog at the bottom. Yes, I did. While I'm grateful it wasn't rank, I briefly worried that if John had discovered this non-rank frankfurter, he just might have taken a few bites no matter the length of time it had festered in the bottom of a backpack. It's a wonder we're as healthy as we are.<br />
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Me, sternly: Ainsley, you're writing sentences.</blockquote>
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Ainsley, cheerfully gathering her supplies: I'd better get started!</blockquote>
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Have to rethink this. #OneofTheseThingsIsNotLiketheOthers<br />
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5. So Ainsley has penned her first novel:<br />
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I laughed until I cried.<br />
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6. Tim is in the final stages of college and scholarship applications, a process right up there with buying a house and far, far different than it was thirty-four years ago when I went through it. I console myself with the fact it will all be easier with Kolbe, learning curve and all that. Gracious me.<br />
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7. Cleaning up the desk the other day, I found Ainsley's letter to Santa which reads:<br />
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To Santa<br />From Ainsley Dolin</blockquote>
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I would like a pack of dres up klos. Look on the back.<br />I would like a tiara and a wand. Look on the back.<br />I like a Winnie the Pooh costume, size six. Look on the back.<br />I would like an Elsa backpack and little girl ereings. A pack of them. </blockquote>
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And I realize that what I wrote above is, in fact, untrue. Kids are not a never-ending adventure. They're a finite, fleeting adventure and one I wish I could bottle and portion out slowly and savor joyfully<br />
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(Except for the college applications.)<br />
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Head over to <a href="http://thisaintthelyceum.org/more-valentines-lead-loved-one-heaven/">Kelly's </a>to add your <a href="http://thisaintthelyceum.org/more-valentines-lead-loved-one-heaven/">Seven Quick Takes</a>.<br />
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